You have found someone willing to take it to the next level. But before you get to the level, there’s one hurdle to jump. “Meeting his parents .”The idea of meeting your boyfriend’s parents can be so overwhelming that it could lead to anxiety.
Worries about what they’ll think of you if they’ll accept you into their family, if they’ll like you, and one last issue to deal with; what to wear! As much as you want an excellent first impression, you would also want to be yourself and comfortable. But the question is, how do you find a balance between what you are comfortable with and what they’ll find acceptable. These valuable tips will help.
Ask questions about Them.
Getting a brief history of their beliefs, religion, and what they consider appropriate shouldn’t be challenging since you can always ask their son. With this knowledge in mind, you will be able to find something that works for both of you. One option that almost always works is an “A” shaped gown. You can style it with a cute blazer or jacket, depending on your style. Choose cool colors that are both fitting and appropriate.
Consider the occasion for the meeting.
Is it a family dinner held to honor your visit? Is it a birthday, a wedding, or a funeral? Maybe a family vacation? Answering these questions can help to simplify the process of picking an outfit.
While there are so many fancy dresses to wear to these locations ordinarily, you want to respect the family’s ideals. When possible, switch things up and be more modest, even if it’s the most jovial location.
Quick note: Make sure you don’t show up empty-handed.
Cover up tattoos and piercings
Again, you don’t want to appear offensive to your potential inlaws during your first meeting. So, it’ll be cool to wear clothes that cover up those. (We assume you don’t have tattoos on your face, lol). Covering such tattoos and taking off your piercings for the first meeting shouldn’t hurt much. It doesn’t mean you’re pretentious, either. Consider it a small price to win your way into their hearts. As time goes on, and with luck, you could reveal such parts of yourself and still be accepted. But on the first meeting, we suggest you cover up well and wear a huge smile.
Wear nice shoes
Shoes are the first thing people notice about you when you walk into a room. They could give out information about you and your personality. Modesty is always key when you are “meeting the parents” for the first time. Your red bottoms might give off the “extravagant” look, so you shouldn’t wear those just yet. Wear shoes that complement your dress but are still average and modest. Wedge shoes fit the bill perfectly as they are very comfortable, and their heels are not so high. They also fit almost every outfit, depending on what style you choose to go with.
Keep your hair simple and beautiful
Again modesty is key, and this also applies to your hair. It takes a whole team to put a lady together when she’s about to meet her parents-in-law for the first time, literally. If your hair is a bright “unnatural” color, you should consider changing it to more natural color. Styling your hair shouldn’t be a big deal, as different strokes serve different folks. You could style your hair how you want, depending on the shape of your face and style preference, but it should at least look clean and natural.
Unless you are from the royal family, you shouldn’t go out of your way to wear very expensive jewelry. Your jewelry shouldn’t scream in their faces. They shouldn’t overpower your outfit. They should be mild, calm, beautiful, yet small – not overly expensive and overshadowing. If it’s custom for you to wear, say, 3 or 4 rings on each hand, bracelets, toe rings, maybe three or four earrings on one ear, and so on. You should consider reducing them for this occasion. Wear decent-looking jewelry. The keywords are simple, elegant, and classy.
There has been a debate in the woman-dom on whether wearing makeup is appropriate or not, and some women have decided to go completely natural. This shouldn’t be your worry. Instead of bright, bold makeup, go for a more natural-looking one. Replace all your bright-colored pallets with more natural ones. Eyeshadow, lipstick, and blush should all be natural looking. So while you look elegant and beautiful, your makeup isn’t screaming.
Carefully Incorporate Your Personality into Your Style
This is a first-hand opportunity to create the impression you want them to have about you. The outfit you choose to wear should have elements of your personality incorporated into it. It should show your style – a bit of it, as showing all of it might not be accepted. Say you are more comfortable in a pair of pants and tops that have plunging necklines. You could wear a pair of pants but instead of a top with a plunging neckline or an off-shoulder, go with a round neck top. If you prefer wrapped gowns that “serve legs,” you could choose a straight gown this time. Accessorise with a jacket over it, cool jewelry, light/natural makeup, and a nice hairdo.
If you follow these simple instructions, the way you appear should put you in their good books. Remember, your dress and physical presentation will go a long way to determine your relationship with them. Of course, at first glance, nobody can tell who you are, but they can, in their minds, make conclusions about you. These conclusions could be very hard to change. So you would want to seize this opportunity to make an excellent and lasting impression on your parents-in-law. It’s your first meeting; please make it count.