It’s not strange to see a young woman dating a much older man, as long as she is of legal age. However, when some people might feel uncomfortable with the age gap between the couple, the usual answer is that age is just a number.
If age is not considered a limiting factor in a relationship where the man is older than the female, why do the rules seem to differ when the tables are turned, and it’s the younger man and of legal age?
Why are people quick to raise their eyebrows when they see a young man with an older woman? But, of course, the most straightforward question on many people’s lips is “Why is he attracted to her?” and there are several reasons that govern a man’s attraction to an elderly woman; some of them are:
- Drama-free: An older woman is sure to have little or no drama due to the maturity that comes with age and years of experience.
- Confidence: For some reason, a woman’s confidence is so attractive and sexy to any man. Older women are usually more confident than most young women who are still trying to figure their footing in life.
- Finances: An older successful woman has a lot of money to spare for splurging and helping the young man with student loan payments, starting a business, and generally afford a certain kind of life. Who wouldn’t want that?
Whatever reason you might have for suspecting that a young man is attracted to an older woman, here is a list of ways to confirm your suspicions or otherwise. The indicators include:
1. He talks about her a lot: Men are not usually known for little talks, but if you notice that somehow, he tends to mention this older woman a lot in conversations, that is something.
A man attracted to any woman will find ways to bring her name into any conversation, and the rules are the same when he likes an older woman.
At every available chance the man in question gets, he would share one of her experiences, an anecdote she told, or how he likes working with her or being around her.
If you notice a man start to do this, he is definitely into the older woman.
2. He asks for her contact details: A man who finds himself fancying an older woman will not be satisfied talking to her only when they see.
Once attraction is established between a younger man and an older woman, the man will find ways to get her contact details so he can continue talking to her outside the confines of the environment they met.
Sometimes, getting in contact with an older woman a young man fancies isn’t as easy as getting a younger female. He might have to disguise his true intentions, especially if he isn’t sure about the woman’s stance on such arrangements.
3. He contacts her often: Older women live in a different world from younger people; however, a young man would always find a reason to contact the older woman he likes.
It is easier to understand that this is beyond a regular friendship if there is no particular reason for him contacting her. He would, however, come up with one reason or the other for calling or texting her.
Intentionally creating an environment where getting to know the woman he likes is essential to a man, so he would contact her often to talk about all manner of things to know her better.
4. He makes an effort with her children: Navigating a relationship with the children of an elderly lover might come a bit easy to females, but not for men.
Nevertheless, a man interested in building a relationship with an older woman would put much effort into getting to know her children.
The acceptance of your lover’s children is an excellent feat in building relationships like this. Don’t be surprised when you see a man going out of his way to building a connection with the children of an older woman; it simply means he wants them to accept him.
5. He ditches his friends to be with her: This is probably the surest way to ascertain the attraction you suspect a young man might be harboring for an older woman.
A man attracted to a woman will find every available means of spending time with her, even if this means ditching hanging out with friends now and then.
If your colleague is suddenly refusing to come with you for your usual Friday dinners because he is with elderly money, best believe it is an intentional act.
This is a significant sign because friendship hangouts are very important to men, especially at a young age, showing how important she is to him.
6. He defers to her: One of the most crucial parts of a man’s makeup is his ego and authority. They do not fancy submission at all, especially when they have to submit to a woman.
If you find a man who readily defers to the whims of an older woman, that is undoubtedly something to hold. It means they are ready to do what it takes to keep the woman happy and sated.
Deferring to an older woman is a sign of respect for her experiences based on her attraction to her.
A man who likes a woman would go to any lengths to please her and keep her happy, and this works for all kinds of relationships.
7. He asks her opinion: A factor contributing to the reasons a man finds himself attracted to an older woman is acknowledging her experiences, which means he considers wiser.
When you notice that a man finds it easy to ask for the opinion of a particular older woman, he is most likely attracted to her. In whatever a man like that faces, he would esteem her opinions and run with those opinions.
Asking for the opinion of a person shows a kind of romantic attraction mixed with respect for the person who is being asked, and this is precisely how it is when a younger man likes an older woman.
8. He wants to know all about her: Curiosity is more often than not fueled by attraction. This is precisely the case of the relationship dynamic between a young man and an older woman.
A young man who finds himself always hungry to learn more about a confident older woman is very attracted to her, and he would also notice that he can seem to get enough of her.
In a bid to learn more about an older woman, a man would bring up all kinds of topics, even the mundane ones, to hear what she thinks and understand her perspective.
Learning more and more about a person is a sign of a special kind of attraction, a romantic one. When a young man is displaying this kind of behavior, this is what it means.
9. He asks her to meet his family: However strange this might sound, a man willing to establish a romantic relationship with an older woman would be very eager to meet her family.
Meeting the family of someone you are attracted to is significant to the state of that relationship because their rejection of it can cause a ripple of issues for the parties in a relationship, including ending it.
Families are an integral part of an older woman’s, at that point, there is nothing she can do without the knowledge of approval of her family members.
10. He is protective of her: By nature, a man is predisposed to be the protective gender, and they do this with a lot of pride.
The protective instinct doesn’t change when he is attracted to an older woman; although she might have more experiences and resources, he still wants to protect her.
Being protective is how men show a lot of their mushy emotions. They want you to trust them and have faith in their ability to keep you from all kinds of harm.
A man would go above and beyond to ensure their loved ones, and it doesn’t matter to them if the loved one Is a better equipped older woman; they still want to express their innate abilities.
11. He doesn’t flake: When a man isn’t entirely into a woman, he would not be all that available for her regardless of who she is.
A man would show up for those he cares about, especially when romantic attraction. It doesn’t matter to a man how old a woman he fancies is. He would show up and be present at every given opportunity.
For a man to be getting intentionally romantically involved with an older woman, he is looking to build something strong and serious, and this means he is keen on showing up with and for her.
12. He makes many physical contacts: Physical touch is a significant part of any romantic relationship, but it is crucial for one between a young man and an older woman.
An older woman who is beginning to notice a young man’s interest might be a little unresponsive because of the insecurity that comes with considering the girls his age. Therefore, a man being very touch helps to ease a lot of that.
Touch is also one of the initial ways of flirting, and flirting helps build sexual tension and excitement in a relationship. The importance of touch in this kind of relationship cannot be overemphasized if the man truly wants to make it work.
13. He’s shy in her presence: One of the quickest ways to determine if someone likes another person is how shy and self-conscious they get in that person’s presence.
Shyness not being a quality that comes easily to men is one of the quickest and easiest ways to determine romantic attraction between a man and an older woman.
A young man who is shy to talk or walk in the presence of an older woman is undoubtedly attracted to her, whether or not he has expressed his feelings.
14. He can’t break eye contact with her: Ever been in a situation where someone you like keeps starring at you? And even after you catch them, they just kept looking? Remember how many butterflies you felt in your tummy at that moment? It’s the same here.
When you notice the long looks, a man begins to share with an older woman. Just know it’s not platonic, especially if he does it all time.
Men love to look at a woman they like, and they would stare and stare, that even when you are not looking, you will begin to feel their eyes on you. This is one sweet way they express just how they feel for a person.
15. He compliments her all the time: A lot of times, the man might not even be fully aware of what he is doing, but once a man finds himself attracted to an older woman, he would compliment her as much and he can.
The compliments a man pays the woman he likes don’t always have to new, or something spectacular; it might be the same hair she’s had on for a week or a dress she’s worn a lot of times, all of these don’t matter to him.
A man into any woman will compliment her at every opportunity; attraction to an older woman doesn’t change that.
16. He is interested in her hobbies: A man’s interest in a woman isn’t limited to one thing. It spreads across everything else.
Once a man learns about the interests and hobbies of the older woman he is involved with, he would begin to take a lot of interest in these activities.
Developing interests in the older woman’s hobbies would be genuine and entirely born out of his likeness for her and everything that contributes to the woman he likes. This is why taking a tremendous interest in her hobbies is essential.
17. He acts more mature: While a young man might not be able to do anything about the age difference between him and the woman he likes, he would try his best to make up for it in other ways.
Getting involved with an older woman is an adventure as it is a lot of work, and the man is a man who wants to impress his woman would consciously work on his behavior and mannerisms.
A man who already feels tiny beside the woman he likes would try his best to grow in maturity as fast as he can manage. He wouldn’t want to appear like a child next to her; he’ll work on holding conversations and making tough decisions.
18. He listens: Nothing says “I like you a lot and I want to be with you” as much as a man with a listening ear.
This listening ear doesn’t just stop at the hearing and learning things from them, and it also involves paying rapt attention to some of the things she says in other to treat her better.
So, for example, if she likes gifts, she might not say it directly, but if a man is listening, he’ll hear when she implies it.
Listening is an excellent tool in building a solid and healthy relationship regardless of who it involves.
19. He specially gazes at her: A man might be looking at a sea of five hundred women, but the moment his eyes land on the one he likes, his look will change is in the sweetest way possible.
One of the best ways to establish an attraction a man has with a woman is how special he treats her, holds her, talks to her, and looks at her.
The unique glance is only expressed to the one he likes, so watch out for the woman he shares that look with, and you will know who he likes.
20. He asks her on a date: Once a man is ready to take things to the next step with the older woman he wants, he asks her out.
A date is a formal statement of interest in everything romance and relationship. It tells the woman that he isn’t joking around and that he wants a relationship with her.
A man who asks for a formal date in a lovely restaurant is done suggesting and implying he is ready to put all his cards on the table and make it known that he is ready for something serious.
There isn’t much difference between a woman dating an older man and an older woman, the only challenge that comes with it is judgment and stereotyping.
Indeed, age is nothing but a number, and the heart wants what it wants, and no matter how long it takes, it will find a way to get what it wants.
If, as an older woman, you have noticed some of the traits above in a confident young man but are unsure if it’s all in your head or not, well, now you know.